So while I wait in line for my daughter to get her picture with Anna and Elsa, you can enjoy the deep thoughts this mom thought after her 300th time watching Frozen!
So here we go...
1. Rejection isn't always about you -
I know you have to watch a Disney movie a lot to put yourself in the characters' shoes, but I really feel bad for Anna. She has a best friend in her sister and then one day its gone. Her parents die and she's alone and lonely. She has no idea why Elsa won't engage with her and as we all do when we don't know the answers we fill in the gaps with guesses. Obviously, Anna never guessed the truth was what it actually was, but in our own lives when we get rejected or treated badly we often ask what we have done wrong when truthfully more times that not it has NOTHING to do with us! In the case of Anna, she was asking and no one was telling her anything, but most of us never ask, we just assume. We all know assuming makes an ass of u and me, right?! So please get more information!!! Quality relationships that are worth it!
2. We aren't meant to do it alone -
Even after Elsa's secret gets out and she sees what she is capable of she's still motivated by fear and hell bent on doing it alone. So many of us are independent and that is great, but we all need others. Some of us have more relational needs than others and I know when we are scared or ashamed of our reality our knee jerk reaction is to push everyone away, but that is NEVER the answer. When you are in a bad place, you need to lean into trusted family and friends. Isolation makes things worse not better. I see it happen all the time so its not just Elsa's problem. If you see someone in your life pulling away, reach out. You can't make them do the right thing but you can do your part to remind them you are there.
3. Fear is never a good motivator -
Whenever fear is motivating us to do life, we will end up in a mess - guaranteed! Fear is a recipe for disaster. Love is in fact the only thing that can conquer fear. That was a fact long before Frozen came out. In fact the Bible shares this truth over and over again! God is love (1 John 4:8) and perfect love drives out fear (1 John 4:18). It is important to ask yourself what is driving your life. If you ever answer fear, its time for a pit stop to regroup and overcome that fear before moving forward.
4. Being Yourself Isn't Enough -
When Elsa finally shares her secret she feels a sense of freedom. She let's it all go (well thats what the song says). She feels a freedom to finally give into her power. The thing is, she still isn't free. The ice making fun ends when she realizes she's left everyone in a winter world and accidentally freezes her sister's heart. When this happened she made herself the monster instead of realizing that freedom isn't in being whatever we are, but learning balance. She was never meant to hide it or fully give into it, but to balance it. When she learned how to control it with love, she finally found the balance. She had freedom to be herself and the relationships and love she needs. Instead of making herself the enemy, she needed to make the problem the problem and find a solution.
I was able to relate to this with my own anger. I am a passionate person and its got some great benefits and liabilities. So instead of pushing others away and trying to be something I'm not, I have to find out what works for me and keep working on it until I get it right. What works for me may not work for someone else and visa versa which is why comparison is so often an enemy. We need to be us, but we also need to be in community and find a way to bring us to society. That takes love, work and discipline, but its worth it!
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